Discipleship Part 3: Mentoring

1. Hebrews 5:12 But solid food belongs to those who are of full age, that is, those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil. (Also Job 17:9; Psalm 84:7, 92:12; Proverbs 4:18; Ephesians 4:11-16; Philippians 3:12-15; 1 Timothy 4:15)
2. A few of the characteristics of maturity include…
  • Filled with the Spirit and wisdom.
  • A fruitful private prayer life with Power.
  • Being an example for others to follow.
  • A Biblical understanding of self.
  • Focused and wholehearted devotion to God.
  • Biblical convictions.
  • Moral excellence.
  • The heart of a servant.
  • Surrender and self sacrifice.
  • Self control.
  • A pursuit of excellence.
  • Endurance, perseverance and patience.
  • Courage.
  • Faithfulness.
  • A team player.
  • A contributing member of the Body of Christ.
  • Accountable.
  • The wisdom to deal with failure.
  • Others…


Exodus 33:12-14 Then Moses said to the LORD, “See, You say to me, ‘Bring up this people.’ But You have not let me know whom You will send with me. Yet You have said, ‘I know you by name, and you have also found grace in My sight.’ Now therefore, I pray, if I have found grace in Your sight, show me now Your way, that I may know You and that I may find grace in Your sight. And consider that this nation is Your people.”

1. The command to lead. (Exodus 3:9-10)

  • Fear and timidity in leading. (Joshua 1:6-9)
  • The leader is a shepherd (1 Peter 5:2-4), not a “hireling.” (John 10:12-13)
  • Question: What is hindering you from taking the leadership plunge?

2. Relationships of mentoring and partnership. (2 Timothy 2:2)

  • “Mentoring is a relational process between a mentor who knows or has experienced something, and transfers that something to a mentoree at an appropriate time and manner, so that it facilitates development and empowerment.” Robert Clinton
  • Question: How active are you in being mentored and mentoring others?

3. Desiring to know God and His ways. (Philippians 3:10-11)

  • Knowing His acts vs. knowing His ways. (Psalm 103:7-14)
  • Paul’s cry to know Him. (Philippians 3:10-11)
  • Question: What are you willing to do to know Him better?
4. Stewardship of God’s people (1 Peter 5:1-4)
  • Even though people may follow us, we must never see them as “our” people.
  • Our task is always develop people in their relationship with Him.
  • Question: How do you lead people God has placed in the care of another leader ?
Matthew 28:18-20 And Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; …”
1. “Mentoring is a relational process between a mentor who knows or has experienced something, and transfers that something (resources of wisdom, information, experience, insight, relationships) to a mentoree at an appropriate time, so that it facilitates development and empowerment.” (“Connecting” by Robert Clinton)
2. We’ve all been mentored before. Write the names of the people who have had a significant impact on you during specific times of your life.
  • As a child
  • As a teenager
  • As a young adult
  • As an adult


1. Mutually establish the purpose and direction of the group.
2. Determine the frequency of interaction, how often?
3. Determine what level of accountability you both are to observe.
4. Mutually establish the life cycle (length of time) for the mentoring.
5. Honestly evaluate the purpose regularly.
6. Frequently modify expectations to fit the purpose.
7. When the life cycle is finished and expectations have been met, bring closure, or set a new life cycle.
8. Write down what you have learned and what steps you will take to accomplish this.

Adapted from “Connecting, The Mentoring Relationships You Need to Succeed” by Paul D Stanley & Robert Clinton

Mentoring is not only an important ingredient to successful spiritual growth, but it is a command of the Lord as well as seen from Matthew 28:18-20.  Below is a chart that will assist you in identifying important relationships you need to be successful in the ministry and in life.

1.  On a sheet of paper, draw a large “plus sign.” You can also duplicate the chart above.  This illustrates a well rounded mentoring way of discipling and accountability and is an important activity in finishing well!  It consists of developing important relationships of accountability with more mature Christians (upward), with people our age and spiritual development (external in and out) and with emerging Christians (downward).

2. Write the names of people who might fit in the following categories.

  • Upward – A “Paul” is an older person who is willing to help you build character.  They have been “down the road of life,” and are willing to share their successes and failures. Hebrews 13:7
  • Downward – A “Timothy” is someone you are discipling and helping in their Christian life.  Your responsibility is to encourage, teach, gently   correct as needed, and pray for him.  1 Timothy 1:1-2
  • Lateral internal & external – A “Barnabas” is a someone who is a peer and who will hold you accountable and love you during difficult times.  It is good to have those involved in your church (internal) and those who work with you (external). Galatians 2:11At the top list people who are mentoring you. They can be contemporary (living) or historical (not living) models.

3.  If you lack names in any of the four categories, begin to pray and seek the Lord concerning people who can (and who are willing and able) assist you in the process of successful mentoring.  Remember to use the “Steps For Successful Mentoring” above.

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